Chinese parenting and Western parenting

    Chinese parenting and Western parenting are totally different.  The Chinese style of parenting is much more strict than the Western one.  It is undesirable for children.  First, Chinese parents restrict so many things about their children’s lives, so they can't have freedom or do what they want to do.  In Amy Chua's case, her daughters were not allowed to join the school play and sleep over outside even if they wanted to do so.  They weren't able to get opportunities to know something new or interesting.  She ordered her daughters to do too many things, and they had to follow them without arguing.  In addition, they were forced to play a musical instrument and practice for many hours. Once the younger daughter could not play the piano well and didn't want to play.  Then, Amy Chua got angry about that and restricted her from having meals and even going to washroom.   It is too strict for children.  Second, Chinese parents do not take their children's abilities into account and do not evaluate their efforts.  They always care about scores and grades.  If their children cannot get straight A’s, they will accuse them.  That is why children may lose confidence and self-esteem.  They will be afraid of making mistakes, if they cannot get the highest score for some reasons, they feel they are not valuable.  They will feel dejected.  On the contrary, Western parents focus on efforts other than results.  They encourage children to make more efforts, but they do not accuse children if they make mistakes or don’t get the highest score.    Under Chinese parenting, children feel depressed,  and they cannot enjoy their lives.  That is why I think Western Parenting is better.